divorce vs mediation

What is mediation?

Mediation is a voluntary, interactive process where a neutral, third party, trained to facilitate communications and with negotiation skills, helps all the parties try and reach a mutually acceptable resolution to their dispute. In litigation, the judge issues orders on what is to be done during the course of the case. The mediator has no reciprocal powers. In mediation, the parties, with the help of the mediator, work together and decide how to resolve the dispute.

The mediation discussions by the participants are confidential, based on California law. Statements made and documents presented in the mediation may not be used in any later proceeding. With litigation, many aspects of the case become public record. Court litigants have to virtually surrender all elements of privacy regarding their dispute. If the mediating parties are unable to reach an agreement, the mediation process gives them the chance to narrow the issues in the case should they later select litigation.

Mediation reduces costs to parties as it can eliminate the high expenses and fees associated with litigation. Exchange of information is voluntary. Mediation can consume far less time and expedite settlement. This results in additional costs savings by reducing attorney time. There is also the derivative benefit to the mediating parties as they are able to resolve their disagreement and reduce the stress from uncertainty and costs associated with litigation.

What Happens During A Mediation?

The mediator introduces the process and then invites each side to explain the conflict from their own perspective. This allows the mediator to better understand the dispute in order to ask questions designed to clarify the respective issues that need to be resolved. The parties are advised that the mediation process is entirely voluntary, and that they may elect to end discussions at any time. Guidelines for appropriate conduct are detailed, often consisting of not interrupting another person speaking, and being respectful to each others case perspective.

What is the Mediators Role?

The mediator is selected by the parties to act as a neutral facilitator to assist and guide them towards a case resolution. The mediator will not decide who is right or wrong in the dispute. The mediator will not compel the parties or force them into a settlement agreement. A mediator’s technique and approach varies on a case by case basis. Commonly, the mediation will begin in a joint session with all parties present to discuss the issues face-to-face. The mediator’s role is to help maintain the parties focus on these issues during the entire course of the proceeding. The mediator will then hold private sessions with each side talking in greater detail about the respective positions of each party.